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What to Do When Your Dreams Reject You

For those who follow me on social media know that I recently accepted a new job at my dream company and will be relocating to my dream city, NYC.  However, you didn't know that before these dreams were manifested, I was rejected not once but twice from my dream company.  My faith in God was constantly tested.  I almost gave up on everything.  Oh, and I went to bed numerous times feeling confused, disappointed, and frustrated.  I've been working in my career field for more than a year and a half.  I didn't know that climbing up the totem pole would be a rigorous journey.  Society makes it seem like once your foot is finally in the door (aka once you finally get a job), you can smoothly sail to the top.  That's a lie.  Truth is, the struggle never ends even after you get a job.  In this post, I want to be very transparent about my rocky journey and how I still became victorious after experiencing rejection from my dreams.  This is my story. I remember it like it was yesterday when they flew me out for my first interview.  Everything felt so right.  The people, the culture, the city--I knew in my heart this company was for me.  In fact, in my personal journal I declared that this year I would gain employment with this specific company, relocate to NYC, and triple my compensation.

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People thought I was crazy for declaring that God would place me at one of the world's most powerful companies, have them relocate me to NYC and triple my earnings.  It was too extreme and sounded unrealistic.  It was out of the ordinary.  Before I continue with this story I must say, we serve an extraordinary God so stop having ordinary expectations of Him.  Your favor exceeds mediocrity, simplicity, and normality.  Stop shutting down your dreams because they seem too big or unbelievable.  You were called to create your own race, not run someone else's.  Ephesians 3:20 says, "Now to Him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us".  Nothing is too big for God.

However, despite making great connections and having a very strong interview, they selected another candidate for the position.  I was completely devastated, shocked, and heart-broken.  I just knew I had it.  My interview went extremely well.  The interviewers loved me.  It seemed so promising.  I didn't understand.  I became frustrated with God.  "Why would you let all of this happen only for me to not get me the job!?  Why didn't you just protect me from this heartache instead of letting me waste my time and energy?!"

Looking back I realize that closed doors open new opportunities.    Rejection creates a space for acceptance in the right place at the right time.

The same day HR informed me that they selected another candidate, I was offered the opportunity to be considered for the same position, except in the Chicago office, because the team was so impressed with me in my first interview.

Sounds great right?  While I accepted the interview in Chicago office, I was frustrated because remaining in Chicago was not apart of my plan.  I remember thinking, "No God!  I don't want to start a new job in Chicago.  Remember I claimed to move to NY in 2016--not 2017.  If I get this job I would have to stay here for another year.  This doesn't align with my timeline and will."

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I had to have a reality check:  God isn't our servant.  He is not obligated to follow our will and timeline.  This is His world and it will operate according to His plan and timeline.   While it's great to have my own goals and dreams, I must always remain flexible and obedient to God.  Sometimes we paint our own pictures, pray over it, claim it, work toward it, only for God to redirect it.  I didn't understand why God was opening a door for me to interview in the Chicago office, but I followed through with it because I trusted Him.

Jeremiah 29:11 says "For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."

Queens, always follow God's plan even when it doesn't align with yours.  Don't grow weary when things don't go according to plan.  Trust God when He redirects you, for all things work together for your good.

Working at my dream company's Chicago office was not in my plan whatsoever.  However, I decided to trust God and still interview for the position.  I figured it had to be apart of His master plan.

Long story short, I was rejected again--I did not get the Chicago position.  I was told the same feedback from my first interview:  the team was super impressed with me and enjoyed my interview.  However, when it came down between me and another candidate, they chose the other.

At this point, I was confused.  "Lord, what the heck is going on?!  You closed NY AND Chicago doors.  I keep getting extremely great feedback on my interview, yet I'm not getting the job offer.  Is my dream company not the place You desire for me?"

When I initially interviewed at my dream company, I saw it as my golden ticket to finally live my dreams.  It was a golden ticket to my dream city, financial freedom, making an impact, long-term stability, work-life balance, career enjoyment and growth.  It was ultimately my golden ticket to success.  I admired the company so much & I wanted to be apart of it so bad.

It's so easy to get obsessed over your dreams that you begin to get single track minded in your thinking.

"If I can just land this big gig, I will make it and be successful." "If I can make $XXX,XXX amount I will finallybe able to pursue my real passions." "If I can work for this company or person, I'll be able to make a name for myself and be successful."

Queens, your future and success does not lie in the hands of a spouse, employer, salary or friend--it lies within you.  I had to realize there is no person or thing in this world that is my golden ticket.  You are your own golden ticket.  And as long as you have faith, perseverance, a killer work ethic, and the Lord--you have the power to gain admission to anything in life.

My purpose goes beyond having an amazing 9-5 career.  My purpose on this Earth is to fulfill a purpose that's bigger than me--to build and bring glory to God's kingdom through the gifts and passions He's placed in me.

So after getting rejected twice from my dream company that I just knew God called me to be at, I decided go chase my dream on my own.  I made my own plan to getting to NYC.  My faith in God increased drastically because I only had Him to lean on.  I decided to stop confining my possibilities and God's power into a small, little box.  He is the ruler of the universe; surely He can do anything.  I knew I was called to move to NYC.  If that meant me moving myself there from my own savings then I will.  I began investing in myself.  One of the biggest things I did was become a certified professional life coach.  It was a life long dream and I finally realized now was the time.  It's time for me to turn entrepreneur desires into a business. If no one will give me an opportunity, I'll create my own.  That's what I did and I can't wait to launch my life coaching business and other endeavors later this year.  I began networking and creating a daily action plan on how I will fulfill my dreams without depending on anyone.  I realized that I was in charge of creating my own Queendom, not a company.  Being rejected by my dreams birthed this new passion and fire inside of me.

As I was pursuing my purpose, my employer at that time put out a company notice saying they were expanding the NY office and looking to relocate employees there.  I remember reading it thinking, "This is a great opportunity, but money is an issue."  My then employer paid significantly less than the positions I was interviewing for.  I was thinking, "How can I survive the nation's most expensive city on this salary?!"  It's so easy to delay dreams because of financial reasons or concerns.  Then a voice said to me, "Who do you trust? God or your paycheck?"

At that point I realized that you can not serve both God and money when you're trying to pursue your dreams.  Eventually, you will get put in a position where you'll be required to take a financial leap of faith.  You have to accept that stepping out on faith means living a life of uncertainty.  You may not know how tomorrow's bills will get paid, when you'll receive your next paying client, or if you'll get a good return on your investment.   However, remember that God always provides for His children who put forth the faith and effort to do His work.  God provides the paycheck, but the paycheck will never provide God.

So after deciding I was going to trust God instead of the low salary, I told my then employer I would accept relocating to NY.

Queens, sometimes God will put you in tough situations to test your obedience and submission to Him.  When the world tells you no, always tell God YES!

Yes, I will still pursue the vision you placed in my heart! Yes, I trust that you will make a way out of no way! Yes, I will re-strategize and refocus my plan so that it aligns with Your desires for me! Yes to being uncomfortable! Yes to trusting You and not the material things You give me!

When I completely surrendered to God and said yes, that's when He told me yes!  A few weeks had gone by and my dream company contacted me again saying they had a new opening in NYC and I was the first person that came to their mind for the position.  I said yes to their invitation, and literally 20 minutes after I interviewed with the team, I received an official job offer!

I was overjoyed, shocked, and ecstatic!  I still remember the name of the conference room I interviewed in was called, "On A Mission From God".  How crazy is that?!  I truly believe this was God's little way of confirming to me that this was aligned with His plan.

Queens, it pays be always be obedient and submissive to God's plans even when they don't align with yours.  Had I not interviewed for the first position, I wouldn't have gotten offered an interview in Chicago.  Come to find out, one of the team leaders I met with in the Chicago interview is also a team leader for my new position.  Because I agreed to interview for Chicago position and did well, I was the first person they considered when the NYC position opened.  See how God works?  He was divinely orchestrating my steps the entire time.  Some days I wonder what if I said no to the Chicago interview because it didn't align with my dream to live in NYC?  What if I let my frustration from getting rejected from the first interview stop me from moving forward?  I'm not sure if I would be employed with my dream company today because quitters never win.  Those first two interviews seemed like setbacks since I didn't get an offer, but in reality they were setups to accept the position I have now.    Everything was connected and came together at the perfect time.

Queens, those dreams and visions you have in your heart are not fantasies and illusions.  Those things were meant to become your reality.  As I said earlier, I knew God called me to work at this company and in NYC--I claimed it in my personal journal before I received the first interview.  It was only a matter of His timing.  Sometimes rejection doesn't mean "no", it means "not right now".  Despite me facing rejection and disappointment, in the end I became victorious because I chose to persevere through the pain and trust God in every circumstance.  Not only am I launching one of my dream businesses this year, but I finally got my dream job, in my dream city, and tripled my earnings!

When you dream big, you receive big!

There's no such thing as a smooth mountain.  If you want to make it to the top, prepare to climb a rocky and rough surface.  Prepare for pain, sweat, and exhaustion as you climb.  Prepare to get told "no" numerous times.  That is the journey to the top.  But once you've reached the top and looked around you, you will recognize the beauty of your voyage and appreciate it like never before.

Keep creating your Queendom and unapologetically pursue your dreams even if they reject you!  It's totally worth it.

Sincerely,

KING

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